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These mistakes make her not want to have sex with you.

How important is sex to a woman?

Women often cite the sexual ability of their male partner as the most important attribute in a male companion.

Combined with emotional neglect/withdrawal by the male in a relationship, a poor sex life is the major reason for women having affairs and for relationships ending.

Think about this. A woman is in a relationship, How to get a hard onBUT she will so often risk losing this because of her desire to be fulfilled sexually by another man. Why another man? Because her current boyfriend/husband is not satisfying her.

The fact this occurs so often for women of different ages and upbringings, tells us how important sexual fulfilment is to women. It is FUNDAMENTAL to a woman’s happiness in life. She has no choice about this.

Let’s now talk about the actual things men do to KILL a woman’s sex drive.

These are the factors that make her want less sex.

What is bad sex for a woman?

These are the core mistakes that guys make that are guaranteed to make women not want to have sex with you.

These issues/techniques/problems will leave women deeply sexually dissatisfied.How to get more sex

If you make these mistakes, you will lead women to start
making excuses about not wanting to sleep with you. You know when she
has a “headache” or is just “tired”.

Women are never too tired for great and
satisfying sex. Ever. Please reread this last point.

Maybe you might identify with some of these comments and I’m sure that
you’ve heard some in the past or something similar that means the same


Another classic line from women after bad sex: “it’s ok that I didn’t orgasm, it still felt good”
FAIL! – A woman should always have at least one orgasm during a sexual

There is a strong link between a healthy relationship and
a healthy sex life. If a woman is sexually unfulfilled, she will probably eventually look elsewhere
for her sexual fulfillment. It may be masturbation when alone, fantasy about other men or in many instances a fling with another man. She has no choice – she is wired biologically to seek sexual satisfaction.

I know this is not what you want to hear, I sometimes wish I didn’t know this, but this is the truth, all women are at least capable of having affairs. As men we need to take a least a little responsibility for this.

The top 5 reasons why men fail at sexually satisfying women.

#1 Ready steady blow!

Here’s a familiar scenario. You get so excited to have sex that you skip any meaningful foreplay including limiting kissing to go straight inside her.How to get a hard on

It feels amazing, your body fills with that magical feeling. Your instincts take over which make you thrust in and out quickly resulting in a rapid orgasm for you.

We have all been there, especially when we were younger, we don’t mean to put her pleasure as second priority, but we can’t help it. Our hormones are extremely powerful and they are driving us to impregnate women not make them orgasm.

What you need to know is that often when the wife or long term partner decides they don’t want as much sex any more, this is usually the reason.

Bottom line on this issue is that she won’t want to have sex with you again
because she knows that she won’t be sexually satisfied.

Would you want to have sex with her if she kept stopping after a minute or two?

No of course not, you would feel used and that she is being very selfish. In other words, welcome to her world.

The resentment builds over time and she retaliates by withholding sex while offering untrue “excuses” to avoid having sex with you.

#2 Can’t get it up

Erection difficulties are also common but this is a little more complicated

Erection difficulties can be caused by many factors, but are most
often linked to anxiety, nerves or something psychological.

However, the woman perceives the situation as being that you aren’t attracted to her and sometimes that there’s something wrong with you.female orgasm

This makes her feel extremely
uncomfortable, leading her to think that there is something wrong with her.

Longer term loving partners are going to work with you on this but the whole situation can be very stressful and can build on itself because it stops you from focusing on the task at hand.

#3 I’m getting mine

This is the case of the selfish male lover. Concerned with his own orgasm
he neglects her orgasms.

This issue is a little bit related to the first point but
usually involves lack of passion, too little or no kissing, little or no foreplay
and little or no variety in where you have sex and how you have sex.

If this sounds about where you are now, you are doing a very good job at driving
her into the arms of another man.

#4 Expecting her to be the man

This is more common early in (even before) a sexual relationship. So what do I mean by this?

It means that you expect to be passive and allow her to “make
the move” from initial physical contact, to kissing and all the way to sex
and probably everything in between.How to have sex with a woman

Expecting a woman to lead the sexual
interaction is against her natural wiring.

Yes, on occasion a woman wants to
“take control” but see this as just a small part of an overall interaction that
the man is driving, directing and LEADING.

A side note that I will return to later
is that this point includes life in and out of the bedroom. Guys get confused here because they think it is thoughtful to allow her to choose something.

This is almost never the case when it comes to sex. If you leave her to make
decisions without your guidance she will lose sexual desire/attraction for
you and the quality and quantity of sex will decrease rapidly with the usual
ending. No sex.

#5 Being predictable

Being predictable in any part of a relationship is a buzz kill. In sexual terms
this is also known as “routine sex”, “relationship sex” as well as by many
other names.

This can include but is not limited to predictability in terms of
physical movement/positions/order of activity/degrees of roughness/roles/
degrees of romance/time of day you have sex/place you have sex etc.How to have sex with a woman

I anticipate that at least some of these points are ringing true for you
now. I want to make clear that I have only skimmed the above issues and
that several of them are very complicated to understand let alone to try to change.

This is an extract from my ebook “Mind blowing Lover”. I hope it can help you understand a little bit more about women and sexually satisfying them.

My ebook goes in to much more detail. I go in depth about every topic you need to become a sexual master. Including being the man in the bedroom, mastering oral sex, different sex positions for orgasm, anal sex, dirty talk, understanding how women are aroused and what to do to arouse them with ease.

Find out more here.

Your friend,

Ben Buckingham