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THE 5 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN BED THAT TURN HER OFF SEX.
How important is good sex to a woman?
Women often cite the sexual ability of their boyfriend or husband as the most important attribute in a sexual partner.
Combined with a man’s emotional withdrawal in a relationship, a poor sex life is the major reason for women ending relationships or even having affairs.
Think about this. A woman is in a relationship, BUT she will so often risk losing this because of her NEED to be sexually fulfilled. Why another man? Because her current boyfriend/husband is not satisfying her. Some women do stay in their relationships and not cheat, but they are secretly very unhappy and frequently fantasize about a better sex life.
The fact this occurs so often for women of different ages and upbringings, tells us how important sexual fulfillment is to women. Good sex with intense orgasms is FUNDAMENTAL to a woman’s happiness in life. Most women will not admit this out loud but she is wired to want to sex just like men are. She has no choice about this.
I don’t mean to beat up on us guys, mainly because I was once in the same position that most guys are in now. Us guys usually get sex education in school, right? But this “education is about condoms, sperm and pregnancy. The education isn’t about women’s orgasms and making sex enjoyable for a woman, so we men just kinda do what seems right and assume it’s fine.
Let’s now talk about the 5 mistakes men make that turn women off sex.
What is bad sex for a woman?
If you make these mistakes, you will lead women to start
making excuses about not wanting to sleep with you. You know when she
has a “headache” or is just “tired”.
Women are never too tired for great and
satisfying sex. Ever.
The top 5 reasons why men fail at sexually satisfying women.
#1 Ready steady blow!
Here’s a familiar scenario. You get so excited to have sex that you skip any meaningful foreplay including limiting kissing to go straight inside her.
It feels amazing, your body fills with that magical feeling. Your instincts take over which make you thrust in and out quickly resulting in a rapid orgasm for you.
We have all been there, especially when we were younger, we don’t mean to put her pleasure as second priority, but we can’t help it. To be fair, we men often don’t even realize that we are putting her second, because we haven’t learnt otherwise. After interviewing 100′s of women, I can tell you that she realizes it. And it matters. It matters a lot.
What you need to know is that often when the wife or long term partner decides they don’t want as much sex any more, this is usually the reason why.
Bottom line on this issue is that she won’t want to have sex with you again
because she knows that she won’t be sexually satisfied.
Would you want to have sex with her if she had an orgasm before you and then just stopped having sex before you shot your load?
No of course not, you would feel used and that she is being very selfish. In other words, welcome to her world.
The resentment builds over time and she retaliates by withholding sex while offering untrue “excuses” to avoid having sex with you.
#2 Can’t get it up
Erection difficulties are also common but this is a little more complicated
Erection difficulties can be caused by many factors, but are most
often linked to anxiety, nerves or something psychological.
However, the woman perceives the situation as being that you aren’t attracted to her and sometimes that there’s something wrong with you.
This makes her feel extremely
uncomfortable, leading her to think that there is something wrong with her.
Longer term loving partners are going to work with you on this but the whole situation can be very stressful and can build on itself because it stops you from focusing on the task at hand.
#3 I’m getting mine
This is the case of the selfish male lover. Concerned with his own orgasm
he neglects her orgasms.
This issue is a little bit related to the first mistake I mentioned above but
usually involves lack of passion, too little or no kissing, little or no foreplay
and little or no variety in where you have sex and how you have sex.
If this sounds about where you are now, you are doing a very good job at making her unhappy and maybe even driving
her into the arms of another man.
#4 Expecting her to start and direct sex
This is more common early in (even before) a sexual relationship. So what do I mean by this?
It means that you expect to be passive and allow her to “make
the move” from initial physical contact, to kissing and all the way to sex
and probably everything in between.
Expecting a woman to lead the sexual
interaction is against her natural wiring.
Yes, on occasion a woman wants to
“take control” but see this as just a small part of an overall interaction that
the man is driving, directing and LEADING.
A side note that I will return to later
is that this point includes life in and out of the bedroom.
This is almost never the case when it comes to sex. If you too often leave her to make
decisions without your guidance she will lose sexual desire/attraction for
you and the quality and quantity of sex will decrease rapidly with the usual
ending. No sex or just bad sex.
#5 Being predictable
Being predictable in any part of a relationship is a buzz kill.
This includes predictability in terms of
physical movement/positions/order of activity/degrees of roughness/roles/
degrees of romance/time of day you have sex/place you have sex etc.
I anticipate that at least some of these points are ringing true for you right
This is an extract from my ebook “Mind blowing Lover”. I hope it can help you understand a little bit more about a woman’s perspective.
My ebook goes in depth about every topic you need to become a sexual master. Including being the man in the bedroom, mastering oral sex, different sex positions for orgasm, anal sex, dirty talk, understanding how women are aroused and what to do to arouse them whenever you choose to.